Are you and your partner struggling with conflict, but can’t find the time to connect over getting help sorting out your differences? Do your busy work schedules, personal commitments or parenting responsibilities make it hard to set aside time for the two of you to work through your challenges? Are you becoming frustrated because, although you truly want to work on your relationship, there doesn’t seem to be a time or place that consistently works for both of you?

Online Couples Counseling, Dr. Dori Gatter, West Hartford, CTMany couples, when experiencing conflict, wait as much as six years before seeking help. With scheduling conflicts, outside commitments or other interruptions adding to this situation, finding support for resolving your differences, reconnecting and reclaiming intimacy can get even more complicated. Online counseling affords you and your partner the convenience of making your separate schedules work together, so you can get the help you need to make your relationship work, again.
At some point, every couple runs into a conflict or challenge they feel they can’t resolve on their own. Often these challenges and conflicts are a reflection of unresolved individual issues and how we can get triggered.  At first, this may feel uncomfortable, but, in reality, it can be a good thing. The awareness of what’s happening for you, your partner and the relationship as whole brings with it an opportunity to dive deep. You can explore what’s working and what’s not, as well as developing tools and strategies to help you heal and grow as individuals, while deepening connection, improving communication and recapturing intimacy.
The process of online counseling is no different than couples counseling that happens face-to-face. The real difference is found in the convenience and ability to access services from just about anywhere. The strength in that is one of the primary reasons you and partner have not been able to address your challenges—time, schedules, etc.—gets addressed by way of the counseling context and takes that conflict off the table right away. With this conflict out of the way, you and your partner can begin the work you need to do to heal and make your relationship whole, again.
Many potential clients have questions about online counseling and how it might work for them. Some common questions include:
Do my partner and I have to be with each other to do online counseling?
No, you don’t have to be with each other, in the same room or even in the same time zone. One of the benefits of online counseling is that it can be done from anywhere and at any time. If you are traveling for work and your partner is at home, all that’s necessary is to coordinate a time where you can speak with your counselor.
Is the technology involved in online counseling difficult to use?
If you’re familiar with Skype or Facetime, then you know all you need to know about online counseling technology. For online counseling, we use different platforms for security and client confidentiality. Using these platforms would simply involve downloading an app to your computer, and creating an account.
Is online counseling as effective as face-to-face counseling?
Effective counseling is about the relationship between the counselor and his or her clients. With online counseling, that relationship is as strong and authentic as in face-to-face sessions. In fact, some clients are more forthcoming with online counseling, because the ‘distance’ saves them from being embarrassed about their thoughts and feelings.